Each day, each one of us faces many “endings”. Each day we have to face the end of a day. We end weeks, months and even years, and while all these are going on, most of us do just fine, because we know that there is a new day, new week, month and even year that is waiting for us.
Most of us move through each of these moments without much distress, but how about when we end a relationship, a job or a life in a certain place or as a certain person. Most of us do not seem to do as well with those moments. But why not?
Just like we bid farewell to the day that ended with the belief that a new one will begin, we should end any of those with a belief that a new “one” will come too. Why is it that we do not have the same faith when it comes to those things?
Alexander Graham Bell wrote:
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
It is thus the same for all of us in life. Doors never close and things never end without new doors opening or new times beginning.
My Ending
In 3 weeks or exactly 15 working days, I will be experiencing a great ending. It will be the ending of my career, of my so called “job”.
I have had a chance to briefly mention this to some of you here and there, but for various reasons I could not openly talk about my plans here on the site – that is until now.
For the past 7 years, since I graduated from university, I have been a secondary school math and science teacher. I taught the odd math course, but my passions and interests lay mostly in science, specifically biology. And so for the past 7 years, I have been blessed to be able to teach and reach over 1000 students.
Did I love my job? Oh you bet! Do I still? Definitely! So why am I leaving?
The number one reason for me deciding to end this career is that as much as I love teaching and interacting with youth, I have found a greater passion and calling in my life, which I have decided to pursue. And I owe all of that to teaching.
During the past 7 years, I was able to help numerous students in both academic and emotional ways. I was able to learn just as much as I taught. And most importantly I was able to grow.
It is that growth that had lead me to a new place, and a new me. At the back of my head I had always had a secret desire to write. As a teen I wrote lots of poetry and even some short articles which I dreamed of turning into books. But then society pushes logic on us and tells us to “get a job and start making a living”. Families preach to us about security and status. And in this way so many of us lose our dreams and passions, and forget the real purpose of life. It is not about making a living, it is about making a life.
Ultimately, I have found that I have outgrown my environment. This is not meant to be a negative or arrogant thing. I simply no longer resonate with the environment that once brought me great joy, comfort and satisfaction. While I still love the premise of teaching, I have learned enough to know how the system works and it does not resonate with me or my being one bit. Although I do not like to focus on negative things, perhaps I will explain this a little more in another article.
Almost 4 years ago, I began a great awakening process in my life, and all the things that once fit, slowly began not to fit anymore. Today in fact, I feel more caged in my work environment than free, and if that isn’t a sign to move on, I don’t know what is.
I had played with the decision to move on and make this my last school year at the end of last summer and it really wouldn’t have made it to the next level of taking it seriously if it wasn’t for Markus (my husband). His infinite love and support, constantly spoke to my soul to assure me that this indeed was the right decision for me.
So between pursuing my greater passion, the mismatch I found in my environment and the amazing support I got from my husband, I made the decision to quit teaching formally.
Some of you may be wondering, well so what – numerous people quit their jobs each day? And yes you are correct. However, most people quit their jobs to go to another job and this is not the case for me.
I am not looking for a new employer. In fact I never want an employer again. And I am not moving to another job. I never want a job again. And yes I am leaving behind a very nice salary. Now don’t expect me to say that I never want money again ;)
I am moving into new territory, into unchartered waters, but I have to tell you that even though most endings come with fear and anxiety, I am not feeling any of this. I think that tells me even more so that I am making the perfect decision for me. I am in alignment with my own compass.
There will be no more jobs and no more employers, because I have come to know that there is another way. From now on, I am accountable to and for myself. From now on instead of making a living, I am making a life.
I am not sure when or where money will come from, but I have to tell you I am not concerned about that. Some may think, “oh well they must be well off!” And to this I say “nope – not by society’s standards at least”. We are a typical couple and have decided to do this (and I say we because we are in this together) not because we can financially, but because we can spiritually.
I have learned enough in the last 4 years to know that when we let go of the oars, and flow downstream instead of always struggling upstream, life always works out.
As Joseph Campbell once said:
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
And today I know I am blessed and so grateful to have gotten to a point where I trust and have faith in such words. Many people might say, “oh that could never be me.” But I tell you it can. It is not going on blind faith and it is not wishful thinking – it is how the universe works and when you experience it, you know it and there is no going back after that.
The Beginning
And so with this ending, comes a new beginning – the beginning of my freedom. A freedom to be who I truly am and to do what my soul was truly called here to do. I have chosen, just like you, to come through into this world at this time. There is a bigger purpose here and the time has come for me to pursue its direction.
From now on, there will be no scheduled wake-ups in the morning out of an obligation to go somewhere. There will be wake-ups to greet a new day and see how I can serve the world that day.
From now on, there will be nothing that I need to hold back. I have not been able to fully speak my truth now for quite sometime and it will feel good to be wholly myself.
From now on, there will not exist an environment where I have to subside who I am and force myself to be with and work with opposing energies. I will instead surround and envelop myself with like energies, with whom I can become an even more powerful co-creator.
As I said above, I do love to and believe I have been called forth to teach, and so that is not going away. However, the teaching will be done in an open, loving, flexible, nonjudgmental and embracing environment.
I want to teach people how to think, instead of what to think. I want to teach people how to connect with their inner being – their God side, and be in a state of peace and love at all times. I want to teach people how to see beauty in all facets of life. I want to teach people how to be accountable for themselves in all areas of their life. I want to teach people how to connect to others and have better relationships, whether they be parental, romantic or friendships. And above all, I want to teach people how to come back and live in balance, with themselves, others, and nature. This will of course also include my expertise in the areas of nutritional science, which I will apply to helping people live out a natural way of life that just as equally nourishes the physical body as it does the spiritual soul. For despite the fact that we are spiritual beings, we must at this time still respect the physical side and support it appropriately through diet, movement and thinking.
So July will come and do I have everything planned out? Of course not. I live in the present moment, for that is truly all there is. How can I plan today, what my soul will be called to do in a month from now?
We are just as powerful in removing all the stresses from our lives, as we are putting them there in the first place. There is no stress to this transition, or there would be no point, the way I see it. Having said this, I do as a creator have some intentions.
I intend to start writing my first book this coming September and have ideas for many more to follow. I intend to begin arranging some speaking engagements in my community over the summer and see where that leads. And more than anything I intend to give some serious focus to the 3 sites that I have at the moment, and speaking of which, stay tuned for a whole new structure to EvolvingBeings.com this July.
No matter what, I can tell you that I am definitely not short on ideas. I have more ideas than I know what to do with, so now it will be just a matter of aligning myself and letting things unfold as they will at the right times.
What else will come of this beginning, only time will tell! But for now I rejoice in my transition and envelop myself in gratitude that I am where I am, and simply that I am.
Conclusion
And so as one thing comes to an end, another thing begins. There is never a finality – not to us and not to anything that God has touched.
Remember we all go through times of change, where things end and new things begin. These do not need to be anxious times in our lives. When we live in the present moment, we realize that everything is perfect just as it is. There is no need to worry or fear or force anything to be.
It is in times of transition that we need to let go of the oars even more and allow the grace of God to lead us in th direction of our soul’s destiny. For there was no ending that ever went by, without a deeper and more meaningful beginning.
Thus, here is to a never ending journey of evolving this being!
*Photograph provided by eyesplash Mikul
About the author:Evita Ochel, B.Sc., B.Ed., CHN - is the founder and editor of EvolvingBeings.com – an online publication featuring various topics on spirituality and metaphysics. Evita teaches consciousness expansion and heart-centered living to help people attain deep meaning, peace and happiness in their life. She is also a nutritional science and holistic health expert for optimal health and longevity. Learn more about Evita Ochel or Follow her on Twitter.
18 Comments to “The End Is Near – But The End Is Just A Beginning”
Evita, I’m so so happy for you! How wonderful this will be to fully express yourself – to truly share your amazing soul with the world! I am honored to be here and to watch this all unfold…
And how wonderful, also,the support you’re getting from Markus – this really can make all the difference when you have someone standing with you and supporting you in your dreams and aspirations!
Evita, I wish you only the best as you go forth. And know that I’ll be here following along on your journey. You are a gifted and caring lady, and I think this is so great what you’re doing…listening to your heart…
@ LANCE – Thank you so much Lance! Even though I feel good about what I am doing and where I am going, you cannot imagine how wonderful it feels to have the support of friends like yourself!
And it is exactly people like you who also want to pursue their own growth and dreams and helping others, that I am honored to be acquaited with and continue co-creating with!
So thank you so much again for sharing in my happiness and Lance I wish you so much of the same as I know that you too are following the calling of your soul and pursuing your own journey of making your dreams a reality :)
Two years ago, I left my corporate job, relocated myself across the US from Tennessee to Oregon, and eventually started my current service of soul reading (Akashic Record Reading). Like you, Evita, I didn’t hate my job at all — I actually enjoyed it. But I overgrew my position, and I wanted to serve the world in a new and more meaningful way.
My best wishes to you for your today and tomorrow. I think your focus on NOW and your sense of service will guide you along. And the best service we can offer is to express and share ourselves.
I’m blessed to know you and your blogs. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Love & Light,
Akemi
Oh, Evita, I do SO know how you feel!! Parallel lives… :) Many many congratulations to you!
I love your phrasing: “greet a new day and see how I can serve the world that day.” What a beautiful sentiment!
“…teach people how to think…” Yes. I believe this is the single most important thing we can learn in life. Learning how to think. As a society, we seem to mostly be on auto-pilot, moving along well-marked grooves in life’s roadways, finding it hard to turn in new directions because the grooves hold us snugly to the paths.
Breaking the pattern is excellent! Thinking (and being) outside the box is SO liberating. I have found that even though—until now—I’ve lived on that well grooved trail, my thinking has never stayed there. That kept me sane; I truly believe this. That you will teach others to do this thrills me throughout! As you say, there is GREAT difference between how to think (which is only the single greatest tool we posses!) and what to think. Learning what to think simply molds us into following the well-grooved paths unless we also know HOW to think, for it’s in the “how” that we take the “whats” ever farther!
Evita, what a joy it is to see you lift your wings! Now that you’ll be able to allow your full voice to sing, I can hardly wait to hear your songs! Your mind-body-spirit messages are all-important to people everywhere. Indeed, I believe in teaching and nursing these philosophies everywhere and any way we can. Thank you for being one of our teachers!
Love,
~ Julie
Thanks for this — I could definitely feel your passion, and I can see the focus you have already in how professional your sites are.
Evita I felt as though I was reading my life while learning about yours. When we started this blog in Dec of 07 it was to become a blogger and learn how to do an ebook. Much has happened to me as I’ve battled Ovarian Cancer Jan 08 and it stopped me for awhile during chemo treatment however my passion never faded and now though a little weary for life I’m back and pursuing my dreams and by the way because of you I bought the book today The Compass as another means of support. Therefore let’s stay in touch and cheer each other on.
Blessings
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
Evita, I belive that End is just a turning point into a new start. This is what your post simply do and it’s the core of many things if only we pause a little.
I hope you don’t mind I referenced your blog on my latest article as I’m so very glad to have learned about the new book The Compass from your site and as I said I love your blog in fact I’ve recommended several times already…
Blessings,
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
yay! all the best.
@ AKEMI – Thank you so much Akemi for sharing your expereince! That is so awesome to hear!
And I completely agree about simply outgrowing one’s environment. We are creatures of change and growth and when we get stuck in environments that hold us back, I believe it is then that our souls suffer the most. And one can actually feel it physically and emotionally – we can only hide and run from the truth for so long before it catches up to us.
Thanks again for all the kind wishes and words :)
@ JULIE – Your comment is putting a huge smile across my face as I read it – parallel lives indeed! There must be some cosmic rays of unity that motivate us and inspire us to go forth with our dreams indeed ;)
Thank you so much Julie for all your support – to say that I am excited is putting it mildly – it feels sooooo amazing to taste true freedom and from now on it will only get better and better!
And I look forward to all the wonderful learning and growing that will come for all of us!
@ CHRIS – Thank you so much Chris – your feedback and support means a lot!
It is like I have this cup with an infinite bottom and it just keeps filling up and filling up with energies of all the beautiful souls around me – thank you for being one of them :)
@ DOROTHY – I am so delighted to hear that Dorothy! It is amazing what we can overcome and it is even better when we emerge from those things stronger and wiser and more loving than ever!
I wish you an abundance of successes and blessings and we will definitely be cheering each other on :)
And no I do not mind at all for your reference to my blog and sharing it with others – thank you so much, I am very flattered!
@ ALISON – Thank you so much Alison :)
Wow you go Evita! The liberation you feel comes through loud and clear. I love what you want to teach…all things that will make the world a better place.
I also like how you tell us no you are not rich and no you don’t have it all planned out. You give others permission and courage to do the same.
I wish you the best and like Lance will support you and cheer you on your glorious journey.
@ TESS THE BOLD LIFE – Oh thank you so much Tess, all these wonderful words that are coming through here are really like virtual hugs for me!!!!
I am excited, and I am committed to this and no I do not have it all figured out, and that is all okay – because we only need to have faith in ourselves and the Universe (God). If we only have that, I really believe we need nothing else, as those two alone can make everything we want or need, happen!
Thanks again :)
Sounds like an amazing adventure to be embarking on, your soul’s work of writing.
And 7 years is a nice round number to have taught, perfect time to move forward. It will be so FUN check in in on your process and new journey.
Congrats!
Another view is endings do nto exist. As the mind opens to realize everything is happening at the same time, the concepts of past and present dissolve and you are left in the present with all there is. Beautful image presented here. Your journey is ever-changing. As ou discard an external skin, another comes to the surface for you to explore and discover.
Hello Evita, I’m here for the first time after your comment on my SW Friday post (thank you!) but I started reading this post and couldn’t stop. You have expressed so beautifully something that has happened to me, only I have accepted it with less grace. In my case the universe has been positively screaming at me to follow a particular path and has taken to removing other options as I have been digging in my heels! Reading how you have made all these choices and embraced this understanding of life purpose has really helped me, and I wish you every success as you move into this new stage of your life.
Janice.
@ JANNIE – Thank you so much Jannie – yes I like 7 too – that number seems to be a constant presence in all the important things in my life. Some will say its just a coincidence, but I take it as a sign post, a sort of marker that I am on the right path!
Thanks again for the beautiful words of support!
@ LIARA – Thank you Liara and I like that idea of endings not existing, after all the now is all there is…
It is interesting because my last few days at work people were asking how I am taking it and if I am doing anything special to “take it all in” and the truth was I wasn’t. Their questions actually prompted me to think, should I be? But when I looked within I quickly realized that just taking in each present moment is all I need to do!
@ JANICE – Thank you Janice for stopping by and leaving these beautiful words!
With respect to your story, I have learned wise lessons from Abraham Hicks material and Wayne Dyer about going with the flow and loosening our grip on the things we want to grasp so tightly. Indeed holding on tightly to something or paddling upstream against where we are meant to go hurts. Physically, emotionally and mentally it hurts and is hard work.
So I thank you for sharing your story and for the beautiful words you have given me. And I wish you lots of continued blessings as you too flow along your destined path :)
I am happy for you, that you are in transition. I feel as you do right now, in the art of being and with many ideas. Foremost my dream is to travel; to help others. I have always know that I was to live a different life, than that of structure and of set criteria ie: employment, but I was to give it a go nonetheless. A week ago, I left my first full time job, and I am experiencing this new change with arms wide open. I too feel that I will get by, on the money note and everything will flow in the moment. That’s how it usually best unravels, I feel. :) I am open to new possibilities and I am happy, that I am too living my ultimate desire – to be free in who I am. :) Best wishes to you my dear friend.
@ ANA – Thank you so much for your kind words and support!
I am so happy for you as well for letting go of the “formal employment” scene. So many people cannot fathom how there can be another way, but there always is. It is all about faith and belief.
You know it has been 2 months for me now and I am already tasting the rewards so sweetly of taking this leap of faith and following my dreams and passions. Although there were tiny moments of doubt, deep within, I really was sure, as I still am today that all would be well. And it is.
And you know what, I know it can only get better and better. There is nothing like being true to who we are and fully living that out!
So cheers to you as well, as this new and amazing path opens for you too :)