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It comes as no surprise that for most of us, thoughts of finances, wealth and money, are part of a daily routine.
At one point or another, money does seem to be the focus of each day. It may have to do with a bill you are paying, an item you are buying, the paycheck you are receiving or whatever else the case scenario may be.
And at all those numerous times, we have a choice of how we are going to declare ourselves to the Universe.
Do you receive your paycheck and focus on how much bigger it should be or how grateful you are for the money coming in?
Do you leave a store thinking that things are just too expensive today or grateful for the variety of things that you can buy?
Do you pay your bills with dread, thinking “here we go, another bill”, or are you grateful for the services you are receiving?
These are I feel, important questions, and ones that I have been reflecting on myself for the past few years, as our answers to them can ultimately determine the state of our financial abundance.
To explain this further, I want to share with you, how true financial abundance is about what is in your mind, not your bank account.
Background Inspiration
The inspiration for this article, came to me really from two areas. For starters, I have been reflecting quite a bit on money in the past couple of months, as my financial situation has changed quite significantly. This has lead me to discover several new things about myself, which I thought would be really beneficial to share with you all here. Now before I explain that, let me continue on.
So as this is sitting at the back of my mind, my second inspiration came from reading a really insightful story that Megan from It’s All About Joy posted in her latest article “Feeling Prosperous“. It definitely solidified for me what I was feeling, and encouraged me even more to share these feelings with you.
Personal Story
As I begin to share with you my personal story, I have to tell you that what tugs on my heart and mind as I write this, in the most positive of ways, is how we as beings are so capable of magnificent change. I am absolutely speechless and humbled so many times at how a person can change their way of life, when one looks back. Of course, I cannot talk for others, so here I speak for myself.
So here goes the short version of my story. Since I was a student in high school, like many other people, I had part time jobs. These are usually our first experiences with our own money. After I graduated from all formal schooling, I immediately jumped into a good career/job, which provided me with not only a very stable and regular paycheck, but one that also kept increasing each year, and well at that.
During about half of those years, I was single and had relatively no bills to pay or anything else financially speaking to worry about. And yet, those were the years where I would drive between a few stores to get the best “deal”, every penny was accounted for and I could not fathom not buying something on sale. I did not feel comfortable “going out for dinners” and always tried to maximize the best value from everything. Now one might say, “good for me, for living such a thrifty lifestyle,” but looking back, I beg to differ.
And it was not that I stressed or worried about money – no not really – this was just how I thought life was. From a distance, someone who saw all that I had or experienced, would probably not think that this girl was holding anything back. I did enjoy great trips on a yearly basis and for the most part didn’t feel like I was lacking anything. But wasn’t I? Did I really feel abundant? Did I feel prosperous? Was my mind geared for financial abundance? Heck no!
While perhaps I did not worry and stress the way some people do, I was living with extreme limits – limits that I of course put on myself, conditioned by both family and society. Is that a good way to live? I would say of course not. Looking back, I definitely learned today that being smart about money and feeling abundant about money, are two very different things. One can be very smart in how they handle their money, with very few feelings of abundance in between.
It was those years, that financially speaking I was perhaps able to have the most, and yet lived very confined, like I was only able to have the least. Although compared to my friends per se at that time, I was “rich”, I definitely did not feel like that. The focus was to save and I had to watch every penny. Not only that, like most other people, I believed money was scarce and one generally speaking had to work hard for it. Only the minority had “lucky” breaks, that made them “rich”.
Looking back I shake my head….not in negativity but in awe. The funny thing too is, don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t that I even wanted to be rich. Because again, like most people, I had the mindset that money corrupts you and why would I need “all that money” anyway.
So, let’s fast forward to today. My life with my husband today is set up for two incomes, yet despite this, as of June there is only one. And here is the even better part. Despite this, today I do go out to dinners freely, don’t nickel and dime and don’t look for coupons ;) I feel quite amazing when it comes to money actually.
Do I feel completely free? No not yet – to tell you otherwise would be a lie, as I do have about 25 years of conditioning to undo, so I still have some growth to do when it comes to this area. But I am living happier than ever. When I think about money today, it is with the utmost feeling of gratitude and abundance – not a lack of. I also know that at any time, if I really, really want something, the only thing stopping me from having it, is me – not the amount of money I have.
So what changed to make me feel this way? The amount of money? Well definitely not, for it would follow that I should feel worse, the less I have, but this is not the case today.
What changed is me – my thoughts, my feelings, my paradigms and my relationship with money all changed. And I cannot tell you how tremendously this has benefited me. Today I live with amazing and increasing freedom when it comes to money. I also have a pretty healthy relationship with it, I might add. (Having said the above though, let me just say that this does not mean I live extravagantly, as I truly stand by a simple and sustainable way of life and do not take pleasure in wasting the Earth’s resources – as I mention in “Our Obsession with MORE.“)
Not only that, today I believe that money does come easy – it is just as easy to make a dollar as it is to make a million dollars (legally) - it just all depends on what you perceive to be possible! Likewise, there is enough money to go around many times over for everyone, and everyone is capable of financial abundance.
But bottom line, I can attest, that financial abundance truly comes from what is in our mind, not what is in our bank account.
Conclusion
So if you recall above, I told you that one of my inspirations to write this was because I think more about money these days – and yes indeed I do! I think about how abundant I am and how grateful I am for all the money in my life right now. At a time when I could focus most on lack of, there is only gratitude and joy on that front.
As for my example above, I hope it inspires you in some way to free yourself from limiting thoughts and feelings about money. Though it is, a rather modest example when you consider someone like Lisis from Quest for Balance. Lisis along with her husband and son have moved to a “no income” way of life. And in getting to know her story, one quickly gets a sense of the amazing feelings of abundance that we are all capable of, not of lack, even when it may seem like there would be no abundance. You can read all about her story in her “Road To Freedom” series.
Hence, before you go to check your bank account balance next, I invite you to re-examine the relationship you have with money and what thoughts about it you hold in your mind. Is it a relationship based on lack, or based on abundance? Knowing what I know today, I realize this is so important as it is what is in our mind, not in our bank account that will truly determine the quality of our life.
What do you think?
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About the author:Evita Ochel, B.Sc., B.Ed., CHN - is the main author of EvolvingBeings.com where she writes about spiritual and personal development. She hopes to inspire people, to truly live out the life of their dreams and awaken the highest version of themselves. She is also a nutritional science and holistic health expert for optimal health and longevity. Learn more about Evita Ochel or Follow Evita Ochel on Twitter.
25 Comments to “Financial Abundance – It’s About Your Mind, Not Your Bank Account”
Hi, Evita!
Thanks for the mention here. I have to say, I don’t know yet how my story will turn out, but I’m certainly optimistic.
Like you, when I was single (a recent MBA grad) I had my fair share of disposable income… and yet, it never felt like it. I was always focused on how much MORE I wanted or thought I needed. Keeping up with the Joneses and with my own ideals kept me feeling a sense of lack, despite all the evidence to the contrary.
When Jeff and I got married, we moved into one home, but essentially doubled our income. And still… it didn’t FEEL like we ever had enough. When Hunter was born, I wanted so badly to stay home with him. But no matter how I crunched the numbers (and I was a Finance/ Accounting gal), I could NOT get the math to “allow” me to stay home. I missed out on about 6 months of his baby days.
Then one day, Independence Day in fact, the sitter dropped him on his head! When we were in the ER, waiting for his CT results, we both KNEW I could not go back to work… no matter what. I quit the next day, we sold our house, downsized, and never looked back. We never went a day without food, utilities, anything!!!
If I had just trusted that everything would be fine, that we could make it work, that all that we needed would be provided for us, I wouldn’t have missed those 6 months with him. Now, I Trust first. If, by some twist of fate, things don’t work out for us… well, at least we tried. I know the kind of life we want, and I have to believe it IS possible, no matter what “the numbers” suggest.
This was a wonderful, thought-provoking post! :)
@ LISIS – Hi Lisis, it is truly my pleasure to share your story with the world, as I know you have been a great inspiration for me. Even though when I made my decision to “quit” my job I was sure about it, it never hurts and actually is so welcome to gain more insight from others about it and if I can say “confirmation” about what I was doing, by learning more from and about someone like you.
And Lisis, I say this with such certainty – “I know everything will work out for you and your family” – the universe has a way of really being on our side when our motives for what we do are based on love, peace, kindness and sincerity.
I have already been seeing amazing results in my life this past month, and I continue to be in awe, how even though as you say “the numbers may say otherwise” things are working out better than one can ever expect.
So thank you for sharing more of your story here, you definitely had a revelation indeed as to how you wanted your life to go and even though I know like I already said that all will work out for you (and this is not some wishful thinking, but with sheer conviction I say this). To add to this all you are truly living!!!! No regrets, no looking back. You are truly living and with your family, and that alone is more abundance than some people ever get a chance to experience!
Thank you again and many blessing to you always – I know there are many more pleasant surprises to come your way, where all this is concerned :)
Very good article Evita. I agree, abundance or lack thereof is a state of mind. I don’t have an income per se. However, financially, my bank account always seems to stay the same because I have an expectation of what it should look like. It maintains its self through my beliefs and intentions.
Money is a symbol and extension of our own personal energy. If we purchase things that do not apply to our personal growth, then we are ego shopping. The items just fill the hole of emptiness. They are just another attachment for the chatter of the mind to jump to.
However, if we spend our time, our attention, and our money on the things that put us in a state of ease ~ that is, that allows our energy field to expand and grow ~ that broadens our perspective and point of view, then abundance will find us without us having to look for it, because as we break down the walls within us, more new energy can flow in. This new energy is the currency of the future.
“In God We Trust” will ensure that abundance will always flow for us.
It is said that things are created twice: first in the mind and second in reality. The financial situation we are in depends on how our mind perceives wealth. What you have stated here is very important; one must be aware of how he/she sees the circumstances of his/her life. If we put abundance in our mind then we will live in abundance. :-)
Evita,
Money. I was a saver. And I still am. Although there has been a shift over time. In earlier years, my wife and I would watch every penny (we’d need it someday…). Now, we’ve really shifted more toward seeing money as a gift that we have. And a big part of that is giving back, too. Which is all part of an abundance vs. scarcity mentality.
Abundance has spoken loudest to me when I’ve witnessed someone who no doubt has less money – be abundant with it. And I think that speaks much toward how we treat money in general – as to how we give it away.
There is enough…enough for everyone. So, Evita, you are listening very well to a voice inside of you that speaks the truth. Keep doing that, and sharing that voice with the world.
And Lisis – I’m sure you know that I think what you’re doing speaks volumes to this belief in a world filled with abundance! You shine!
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Evita,
I married my husband when I was 17 and pregnant. He had one dollar in his pocket at the time. Within 4 years we had four little girls, the last pregnancy being twins. Except for a few years we’ve always been self employed. We enjoyed life and enjoyed our money. Only once was he unemployed and we were so yound I don’t remember for how long that was.LOL
When the girls were in high school they were all in sports (our way of keeping them out of trouble.) It seemed like they always needed something for a school project, another pair of basketball shoes etc. We always managed to get them what they needed. My husband started his accounting practice in the small town he group up in and sold it 2 years ago when we moved to AZ. He had another well paying job here for another accountant but was let go 5 months ago. He’s going to purchase another and is in the process of inviting all old clients back.
I’ve always been creative and had a flower business on 2 acres while the girls were growing up. When the twins began school I went back for my degree taking only a few classes at a time. It took me over 9 years to graduate.By this time they were in high school and I decided to get a MA in Pshychology. After 2 years working at an agency I began my own private practice. My license isn’t valid in Arizona but I knew it before I moved and decided to let it go.
We always dreamed of moving to the South West where the sun always shines and the sky is always blue. So I guess we’ve always had the right mindset without knowing it.
Some forget that abundance isn’t always about money. One duaghter quit teaching and began working for the airlines 4 years ago. This means we fly free in the US anytime…anywhere. If we want to fly outside the US we get a big discount. 2 other daughters work for New Balance (athletic shoes). I happen to have the sample size, 7. I never have to buy running shoes. This has been going on for 10 years. I look at it as the universe giving back because we’re such great parents! Blah blah sorry I’m so long winded. I just couldn’t resist. We’ll celebrate out 38th wedding anniversary in January. Who would of guessed?
@ BERN – Thank you Bernie and thank you again for the addition you have shared.
I wish I had your line: “If we purchase things that do not apply to our personal growth, then we are ego shopping” – when I was writing my article “Our Obsession with MORE” – you have said it right there so well, and I did not even think of looking at it that way, but it makes so much sense.
“ego shopping” – I love that! This helps me explain to people that it is not the idea that “stuff” or “money” or wanting abundance is “bad” – but that it all depends on what the motive for all this is. Is it just to fill a void? To fit in with others? To compete or look better than others? Or is it a product that actually leads to our growth and betters us in some way, is it something that we enjoy for the sake of our being? etc…
So thank you and I do trust – and with that in mind I have no doubt that we will always have what we need, when we need it and even more to help others with!
@ WALTER – Thanks Walter for sharing your thoughts! You also said it so well, indeed everything is created twice, as the famous saying goes:
“whatever the mind of man can perceive, it can achieve”
I wholeheartedly believe that today, and hence I let abundance take over my thoughts, not scarcity, for which one serves me more? I think the answer is obvious.
@ LANCE – Oh I can so relate to the saver part and also to seeing money as a gift part. That is an awesome thing too that has happened for you both.
You know seeing what I have seen in our society, etc, and how our parents and their parents had to struggle, I think a lot of people are still stuck in this mind frame of “saving for a rainy day” – and as I said society feeds into this.
I am not sure how it is in the US, but in Canada there is something called RRSP – registered retirement savings plan, where people put in some money based on a schedule of their choice for their retirement. We are always taught we have to think of the future!
I see and know people doing this like crazy, tons of money going into this “future” time, which makes so many feel so not abundant in the present. How does that make sense? Saving for the future and feeling poor in the present, a future that might I add is totally uncertain regardless what you do. I think a better plan would be to consciously create the future you want, not depend on some government savings plan that may or may not work out.
And you are right, how do we allow the money to flow? Do we just gather for ourselves, or do we share freely with others?
Indeed all these things are important considerations in terms of what we create in our lives where abundance is concerned.
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@ TESS – What a magnificent story!!! Thank you, and thank you again for sharing that experience with us all here!
Your life story may seem magical in one way to some people, but so real when one considers how the universe works! That is exactly it! When we are living with the highest good in mind, the greater good for self and others, the Universe always opens doors where before there were only walls.
It is as Lisis says about faith and belief.
And I have to say Tess, I so relate to the last part you said. So often in the past couple of months, little freebies have come to me in various forms, and my husband was quick to point out exactly what you said, it isn’t always about money, there are many ways that abundance comes into our lives and I see it, I live it and I love it!
And won’t that be a special anniversary for you too indeed!! So thanks again for sharing this amazing experience of your life, it serves as a wonderful lesson for many of us here I am sure.
Hi Evita,
Five years ago, my husband and I quit our jobs and went to India for six months on a spiritual quest. When we returned, my family was so upset at what we had done, no one wanted to talk with us or do anything with us. So we had to live out of our car and we only had $2500 in our bank account.
It took us two months to find a place to live and jobs. When we settled into our new home, there was only 100 dollars left. We never went into debt, we never asked anyone for money, we always had a place to sleep and food to eat during those two months. We never had to sleep in our car. The Universe provided for everything.
As a result of that experience, I know for a fact that the Universe will always provide. What causes problems is that people attach too much worry and fear with money. It is simply a means of exchange. And the more abundant thoughts you have, the more abundance you will have.
What we think and feel about the world, will be our experience. :)
Evita — I really appreciated this post and it’s message. As I am semi-retired, I do at times worry about money, even though I don’t really need to right now.
Worry is about fear. So,when my worry monster bites, I stop it by giving something of myself. Sometimes it’s giving my time and sometimes it’s giving money. When I do this, the worry disappears! It taken me many years to accept the truth that the Universe is abundant when we are abundant:~)
Your story resonated with me. I used to worry about every little dime and now I worry about making the most of my experiences. I live modestly and try not to give too much of it back to companies for their junk that I will throw in my attic. I believe in paying for experiences and comforts.
The end of this post is my favorite. I used to check my savings balance all the time, now I can’t tell you how much we have saved. It doesn’t matter because I’m living the life that I want (at least trying and getting closer every month). :)
Thanks for this Evita. What this brings up for me is a certainty I’ve always had that everything is going to work out as far as money — and my career generally speaking — are concerned. And for me, I think this certainty comes from a simple faith in myself, as opposed to any specific belief about money. Sometimes self-criticism comes in and covers up that faith, but underneath it all, it’s always there.
What a great story, which I appreciate you sharing. Thank you, too, for your kind mention of my post earlier this week!
It sounds like we had similar money backgrounds: I started earning money when I was 11 by cleaning a hair salon at night. From that point on, I learned that money takes work. HARD work. I also learned to live paycheck-to-paycheck. It wasn’t until I read Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life that my relationship with money changed. I began blessing my bills, reveling in what I had instead of what I didn’t, and when I finished reading that book, I actually received a sum of money rather out of the blue! When I began feeling worthy of wealth it started to flow into my life effortlessly.
And then in January, after reaching a bigger salary than I ever dreamed possible, I quit my job because I realized that true wealth – for me – is living a happy, balanced life. Work wasn’t providing that.
I’m honored to read your words here, Evita. You inspire and lead by example, which I think it just great. ( * bow * )
Sweet story. You have realized that happiness is a state of mind and where happiness lies so does abundance. Your reality began to change once you changed how you perceived money. Gratitude is one of the most powerful ways to create positivity by showing appreciating for what you already have. Its great to see you have progressed mentally, because most people usually state financially dumb. Great inspiring story.
Hi Evita,
In my experience, it’s been about letting go. We hold on to conditioned beliefs and lingering emotions about everything–money, health, self-image…when we know what it means to let go and we can let go, there is a feeling of lightness and flow. And then, whether it’s money or health or a sense of purpose–it all comes about in abundance and joy.
I gave up a large paycheck three years ago, to travel, write and awaken to life. I feel light and there is flow. It’s all about letting go of fear–and that’s not as hard as the mind thinks.
Thanks for the insights!
k
@ NADIA – Wow that is one amazing experience you had!
First of all, I would love to do such a spiritual retreat for a few months. And I am pretty serious about it, in that I would like to manifest something like that in the near future.
Secondly, your story offers another amazing example that indeed, as you also say the Universe always provides. When we walk on, trust and believe all that needs to work out always does.
Thank you so much for sharing that experience Nadia!
@ SARA – What a great addition Sara – “the Universe is abundant, when we are abundant” – that is so true!
I have learned to deal with the whole subject of “fear” thanks to Conversations with God material. You may remember when he gets asked questions that probe further and further, ultimately it comes down to a fear of death. But if we remove that, if we remove the fear of being ridiculed or not “fitting in” somehow, then what is left?
Nothing I feel – but the amazing space of just enjoying and being at peace with what is.
@ KARL – Thanks Karl for your feedback.
Yeah, I really want to write even more about this in the future, because I feel that I had and still have some serious and I mean serious conditioning to undo where money is concerned. But I am so happy because I do feel freed today, and want to or hope to inspire many more people out there also.
You know how it is, it is great to teach from theory, but quite something else to teach from experience. So yes, I was on the side where abundance was almost negligent, and now I live on the side where abundance is, well, abundant :)
CHRIS – Hi Chris and thanks for adding that piece about certainty.
I think for me, I had certainty that I would also be “okay”. Like I said, I never worried or stressed the way people typically do. But I was so confined to this “certain” abundantless lifestyle – so limited, I feel, looking back today.
So, indeed good that you brought that up, as there are so many sides and layers where money and financial abundance is concerned, and how different people approach it.
@ MEGAN – My pleasure Megan, and thank you for sharing your story here too!
Wow, I loved the part where you said you got to that “high” salary and then walked away from it. I feel the same way. I walked away too because I now know today, so, so much in every fiber of my being, that it is not about how much money you make or have – but really your mind set on life and the abundance you feel in it – that will dictate the quality of your life.
So thank you for that beautiful compliment, it is deeply touching and it is my most conscious intention to continue to both learn from and teach, those who share my path or I theirs.
@ JONATHAN – Hi Jonathan and wonderful to hear your thoughts!
I really like how you said “progressed mentally”. You know, today I think of it this way:
Let’s just say that I won the lottery. At this point in my life I will always know that I had abundance before it and it did not dictate my level of abundance. You know what I mean, instead of vice-versa, where mentally nothing changes, but someone wins the lottery and all of a sudden feels abundant. I really like this path, the order it took and how it all is working out!
Thanks again for those profoundly wise words!
@ KAUSHIK – My goodness, thank you, and thank you again!
I continue to become more and more speechless at how many people in fact have walked away from good jobs and salaries to really pursue living life!
I love this and how wonderful for you as well for following your passions and a heightened state of being.
And you are so right, it is about letting go. Letting go of fear as other readers have mentioned, letting go of all that bound us to a limited state.
It is truly so wonderful and freeing as I am now learning more and more people can attest to :)
Money. We can’t live without it…and living with it presents challenges as well. Like you I had years of conditioning to undo. After I quit my job, money stress returned. No longer could I afford the things I used to afford freely. Or so I thought. Then I got tired of thinking I couldn’t afford, and decided I could. That kept me on a road to more positive thinking in terms of where money would come from. It is freeing! And now I make money doing absolutely, positively what I love and that in itself is rich!
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Thank you for posting this! Since I have changed my mindset, the stress from living on a disability income, not knowing where of if my health insurance will come from (ironic being on disability [sick] without health insurance) and so on, but I always have enough, sometimes more than enough. I know I will get the health insurance I need, and everything else I need and crave. Its a much better way to live.
@ STACEY – Hi Stacey, thanks so much for sharing that!
Isn’t it amazing how we in fact tell ourselves what and how we think are? But in reality, we can just as easily tell ourselves a “new” story, and one that would definitely suit us better.
And it is wonderful to hear that you got into that mindset as well, for it is so freeing indeed!
Whether I am making money or not today, I realize is not my primary concern, but like you I am in the space that I am doing what I absolutely love and that adds to my feelings of abundance :)
@ CARLA – You are so welcome Carla, and thank you for stopping by to read it!
I am delighted to hear that all is working out for you, despite what others may say is a “challenge” or even a “problem”. In reality, none of these have to be such. It is as we keep mentioning the mind set we have and the meaning we give to each situation, that in the end determines the quality of our lives!
This was a good read for me today Evita as I felt the need to call and cancel a gal who was coming to clean (she lost her job with the State and I am trying to help her) as my partner says we will not get another full paycheck in the coming month. Because Architecture is feast or famine work, I have always worked at keeping living money for 6 months in savings – for the first time that will be gone…
I live in a stunning home which is my husband’s calling card and it is incredible energy efficient. I asked for Solar Panels for my 60th birthday and we got a “green” loan to install and they will pay for themselves in 10 years.
We put all of my youngest child’s medical debt on our house…$261,000 and we have paid it off, now we are paying off the house….I am trying to decide about giving up health ins. ($1429.00 a month) Intentionally – and about getting another job….for several weeks now I have been praying my blog would bring in more donations….but I must not be writing well enough or too desperately as during this time my numbers dropped…
worry was getting in…
Now I must decide on Thursday afternoon about giving up my Ordination or starting to apply for church approved positions.
I am meditating to heal myself, have a long history of never getting paid for the work I do….but believe it is the work I was called to do.
I bless the bills when they arrive and am so grateful for having those services provided….I bless the garden and the orchard and am thankful for their abundance.
I was thinking on my walk the reason I need to get rid of my health ins. is that I am going to die sooner than later….so I need to just figure out how to pay for comfort care….and use the money to Live in the present moment.
I am an amazing person – is this the question I should be asking and thinking about….
I am also thinking about Dr. Furhman’s regime I am on and thinking I would eat a donut if offered and not another apple right now…
Nonviolent Communication/Compassionate Communication practitioners just let the money come in that they need and they work on donations and they are never left in the cold….
@ PATRICIA – Hello Patricia and thank you so much for taking the time to share your story here. I am glad this was a good read for you, as based on the story you shared, you are at a point in your life where you are at, if I may say a fork in the road – now it is all about how will you choose to act, react or embrace this situation.
In the end it is always us who give everything meaning – nothing is bad or good until we call it that – until we assign it that meaning. So you have been given a choice, a learning pad – what will you choose?
Will you continue to find happiness and have hope and faith or will you let worry, stress and fear set in? I am not asking simply stating what many people in your situation may want to consider.
I was greatly moved by how you are approaching this situation though and because of your belief within that you will never be in the cold – you are right.
My thoughts and positive intentions are with you at this time, as you go through what some would call a “challenging time”.
If I may add a couple of specific things… I know the health care system in the US is very different from the one in Canada and generally people may want to invest in some extra care or insurance. But here we have life insurance options too – I would personally never buy it. I like living in the moment – not recklessly – but fully.
This ties into the eating regime you are on – Patricia honestly it is so worth it to invest those apples into your body. What we put into our body each day truly makes a difference to the health we have in the future. WE can heal ourselves of anything through both thoughts and a pure, wholesome, natural diet – and then we don’t need anyone’s health insurance or other stuff like that.
And one last thing Patricia – NEVER ever doubt yourself. I know it is easier said than done, but go always what is within your heart and do that. Write what flows out of you and what speaks to you, and do not equate it with any rewards you get or don’t get. People come and go – but your satisfaction is what remains at the end of the day.
Wishing you many blessings today and always!
Hi Evita! It’s my first visit to Evolving Beings… I’m finally ready to grow in my spiritual and emotional life and I know that I’ve come to the right place!
As you know, I am not earning any money right now. My husband has savings, properties and a steady income from a business that he works very hard in. Yet, his thinking about money is always of lack, scarcity and fear. In fact, five minutes ago we were on the phone and I told him to collect a parcel with my progesterone cream and our green juice powder from the post office next to his shop. He scolded me for ordering something. Apparently I “just don’t listen”. I feel like blocking my ears when he talks about lack and scarcity. He’s talking us poor!
Hello Evita,
First let me say, “WOW! What an awesome blog!” Okay, now that I have that out of the way…
I love this article. Like many here have commented, I have also undergone a paradigm shift in my thoughts about money over the last few years. I now think of money a lot, even more than I used too, but from a totally different place. I am GRATEFUL for everything I receive, and I don’t fear or dread “being without” as I know all that I need will come to me as I attract it to myself.
Great article, and so many more to read on this blog!
@ HANLIE – Welcome Hanlie – I am so honored! And as always please let me know if there are any specific ways in which I can help, inspire, uplift, etc. :D
You know what Hanlie, I totally understand as many, many people are in the position your husband is in. Whatever their past conditioning, 99% of course from his parents, that mind set is kept as we go through life and many people just don’t stop to think that there is another way – perhaps a better way. I know, I was there. I could’ve easily fell into my parent’s conditioning that every cent has to be watched and that money is always the limiting factor. Well as I said, today I have no real income and I feel richer than ever!
It is amazing what our minds can do, so I do understand what you mean about “talking you guys poor”. Now of course every person is different and a lot of people are very sensitive when approached about the whole money subject. So I would consider talking to him about this slowly, not because there is anything wrong with his thinking, but because even a small shift in thinking can change both your lives and make them a little easier.
Have you heard of the book “Think and Grow Rich” – highly recommend it as perhaps the ground breaker for initiating a conversation about this perhaps.
As I said, it is a touchy area for a lot of people still, so just have patience and know that the vibration of your energy alone can make a huge difference in how things go.
@ KEITH – Hello Keith and wow – thank YOU so much for that wonderful feedback!
Yes, I totally relate to the thinking a lot about money today, but in a much, much different way! That is awesome to hear – it does feel freeing, doesn’t it.
Many continued blessings to you and abundance in every way that you desire!